Sit up straight, you're about to get schooled...
Dear men, we understand that your own reproductive organs are much easier to get a handle on, literally. You're penis and testes just hang out there, on the warm days, so getting a grip on how things work down there is simple for you. Don't worry, we understand that women are complicated, as are our downstairs lady areas. However, this doesn't mean that you get a free pass of ignorance, oh no. It is time to start studying because here are 7 things that women feel you should know about vaginas.
I Think You Mean Vulva
You say tomayto, I say tomahto, you say vagina, I say vulva... because that is the correct term for what you are trying to describe Sir! The vagina is the hole in which the penis enters and the baby exits. The vulva refers to the entire external genitalia, including the labia, minora (inner folds) and majora (outer folds), the external clitoris, the pubic mound, the perineum and of course, the vagina. Basically, when a woman spreads her thighs, all that you see before you is the vulva.
Female Erections Are A Thing
When a man gets aroused with all of the blood rushing from his head, to his, well, other head. Men get aroused and the penis swells, this is the same for women, except instead of having to deal with a tent pole, women only have to deal with a little nub.
When a woman is aroused, the clitoris, which is a little nub or bean that lies just above where the labia minora connect, swells because of a rush of blood to the genitals. This can be very pleasurable, however an erect clitoris can be extremely sensitive and too much stimulation, or rough touches can cause the head of the clitoris to retreat under its protective hood. Yes, really. So be careful with what you're doing down there guys.
Learn Of The Love Button
The clitoris really is an amazing piece of kit. Not only does it have about 8,000 nerve endings, but the only reason it even exists at all is to provide pleasure for women. Ha, take that penis! Here's what you probably didn't know, the clitoris isn't just that little nub, oh no, like the Tardis, it's bigger on the inside. It has two little legs called crura, which are within the labia majora (outer labia, or flaps) and the clitoral bulbs. Basically it's sort of lateral with the pubic bone.
When you take both the external and internal parts into account, the clitoris is nearly the same size as a penis. Think about that next time you're focusing all of your energy on one little bean, when there is a much greater area to play with.
It's a Vagina Not a Liquid Soap Dispenser
Here's the thing, every vagina is different, just because your ex's vagina turned into a slip and slide every time you touched her does not mean that the next vagina will do the same. Some women get very wet when they're aroused, others don't. It really is as simple as that.
Fun fact, a woman's ability to lubricate can be affected by many factors, including but not limited to her menstrual cycle, medications, birth control, age and hormones. Women in long term relationships may take longer to get wet because there isn't the same giant rush of hormones and chemicals, like there would be at the start. It doesn't mean that their partners are doing anything wrong, it just means that a little bit more time and effort is needed.
Effectively, don't freak out if the woman in your life isn't soaking straight away, be patient and so what if it takes a little bit longer, that just means you get more time in Boobtown.
Oh Oh Oh... No, Not This Time, Sorry.
Hate to break it to you buddy, but our survey says, uh-uh. Women generally aren't going to have an orgasm from penetration alone. This has been backed up by science, yay science, with studies showing that approximately 75% of women never come from basic intercourse.
This is not a game of Whack-A-Mole! You're not going to hit some magical elusive target with your penis and cause fireworks and a parade. Foreplay and manual stimulation are very, very important when it comes to helping women have orgasms, even more important than putting your spoon in the honey pot.
The valuable lesson here is do not be disheartened or feel let down because you didn't make her orgasm during a roll in the hay. Just remember that a) external stimulation is key and b) that just because she doesn't come, doesn't mean that she isn't enjoying herself.
There's More Than One Way To Skin a Cat
Remember earlier when we mentioned that every vagina is different? Well that's the same for the rest of the body too. Different women are stimulated by different things. Think about it like, some women like ice cream, some like frozen yogurt and others are into fruit salad.
Every person has different parts of their bodies that are more sensitive than other areas. Some women are all about clitoral stimulation, some like a good foot massage and others are very into penetration. Some women are also more sensitive than others, so while one chick might like it hard and rough, the next lady in your life might prefer a gentler approach.
Never assume that all women will be satisfied with the same technique. Plus exploring each other and finding out what each other like is the best part, so get ready for the best game of Marco Polo in your life.
G-Spot or Not?
The G-Spot is the Schrodinger's Cat of gynecology. Many doubt the very existence of the G-Spot, while many believe to have mapped it's exact location! However, several experts in the field propose that the ambiguous and controversial Grafenberg Spot is not one single solidarity target on a map, but is in fact an area of glands on the vaginal wall.
The G-Spot is said to be found about an inch and a half inside the vagina, you'll be able to recognize it as it feels different to the rest of the vaginal wall. It has a spongy texture with soft ridges. Many women believe that the best way to stimulate the G-Spot is by doing a "come here" movement with your fingers.
What you need to understand though, is that not every woman finds stimulation of the G-Spot to be pleasurable, some even find it really uncomfortable. Oh and it's not some kind of magical orgasm button. Remember that anything past the first 1/3rd of the vagina has hardly any sensory nerve endings, but you're welcome to try.
One last time, for the guys in the cheap seats, every vagina is different, and different women will enjoy different things, so go have fun and find out what it is she likes. If you want to understand a vagina, then it's probably best to have a good understanding of its owner first.