Finding a true and faithful friend is akin to finding your soulmate. There are some people that we just click with immediately. We can let our guard down and share our hopes and fears without being ridiculed or judged. Quality is more valuable than quantity - having one true friend is better than having five fake ones. But before we can attract real friends, we must first become a true friend to the important people in our lives.
Be A Source of Encouragement
We all struggle with self-confidence at some point. A good friend knows how to lift you up when you’re feeling down. They shine a light on your good qualities and give words of encouragement to help calm your fears.
In a world surrounded by people who love to point out our faults, true friends become the counterbalance by filling our lives with positivity.
Communication in the relationship needs to be two-sided. It’s easy to become self-involved with the events in our lives. Make the effort to find out what is happening in your friend’s life. Maintaining a connection through open communication leads to a stronger friendship that stands the test of distance and time.
Apologise & Practice Forgiveness
Disagreements will arise, and the way we handle them can either make or break the friendship. Avoid saying hurtful things in the heat of the moment. While words can act as a healing balm, the wrong words can cut like a sharp knife.
Whatever you do, don’t gossip behind one another’s backs. Solve the disagreement together. Take the time to listen to each other’s side of the story. Try to put yourself in their shoes and consider how you would feel. Only then can you apologise and forgive each other. Don’t throw away the trust and respect you have developed over petty quarrels.
Defend Their Honour
Stop anyone in their tracks who decides to gossip about your friend in your presence. Remaining silent or joining the conversation is disloyal. True friends always stand up for each other and choose to say nice things behind one another’s backs. If you have a friend like this never let them go; loyal friends are few and far in between.
Call Them Out When They Are Wrong
Truly loving someone means accepting the good with the bad. Sometimes it becomes necessary to pull your friend aside to address certain negative behaviours. To soften the blow, suggest how they can use some of their positive qualities to stop the negative behaviour.
We all have flaws; a friend who is willing to keep us accountable for our actions shows that they really care about our well-being.
Be Present Through The Good and Bad Times
Good friends know how to cheer us on in the good times and in the bad times offer up a shoulder to cry on. The relationship should be built on a level of trust that encourages us to share our most vulnerable sides.
Provide A Listening Ear
Sometimes we just need to vent about the pressures of life. Good friends know how to provide a listening ear without giving unsolicited advice. Just being able to voice your concerns is a great stress reliever. Take the time to be selfless and put your friend’s needs above your own.
Spend Time Together Just Because
Life is hectic and before you know it a few months have passed since you’ve spent time with your friends. Make it a priority to schedule time to catch up with each other. Whether it’s a phone call or a fun outing, strengthen the bond of your friendship by making time for each other.
Being surrounded by good friends and family leads to a more fulfilling life. In fact, some friends are closer to us than our blood relatives - treasure those friendships. We are all human and at one point or another, you may find yourself slipping in one of the areas discussed above. That’s ok, it’s never too late to implement the changes needed to strengthen your friendships.
Let us know what you think:
What qualities do you look for in a true friend? Do you think you are a good friend?